Soft Soap and Wishful Thinking

A voyage into the painful truth of self-discovery.

Why Living in Your Past is the Key to Your Future

Open pretty much any self-help book and somewhere in there it will talk about “letting go” of the past. It will tell you that you are not your past, that if you keep yourself trapped in it you can’t claim the glorious future waiting for you. Religion often tries to do the same thing. Some religions encourage you to “live in the present moment”, others to relinquish your past into the hands of an omnipresent god. Continue reading “Why Living in Your Past is the Key to Your Future”


Behind “Soft Soap and Wishful Thinking”: Comfort vs. Truth

If you look for truth, you may find comfort in the end; if you look for comfort you will not get either comfort or truth only soft soap and wishful thinking to begin, and in the end, despair.

C. S. Lewis

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Why Having a Purpose is Ruining Your Life

“You are enough. You are enough. You are so enough.”

When I first heard these words every cell in my body rolled its eyes. Another stale mantra of self-love. Another flimsy, flowery incantation of personal empowerment. Next she’s going to say that she owes all her success to falling in love with herself, that she eliminated the word “can’t”, that her only competition was who she was yesterday, etc., etc., etc. Continue reading “Why Having a Purpose is Ruining Your Life”


The path isn’t a straight line; it’s a spiral. You continually come back to things you thought you understood and see deeper truths.

Barry H. Gillespie

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The Soul: Now as Basic as a Pumpkin Spice Latte

It was a steamy August morning, and I was sitting across from a friend in Argo Tea. My iced Teapuccino was too sweet, too vanilla-y, but I still liked it, and my friend was sucking down a magenta-colored pomegranate Tea Squeeze. While I was dressed casually in a sheer Forever 21 blouse and navy shorts, my friend was rocking a crazy cute LWD (little white dress). Continue reading “The Soul: Now as Basic as a Pumpkin Spice Latte”

Rumi Tuesday

Grief can be the garden of compassion. If you keep your heart open through everything, your pain can become your greatest ally in your life’s search for love and wisdom.


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The 4 Types of Denial Holding Us Back and How to Use Them to Reach the Truth

We are all in denial of something. Whether it’s about something trivial like how witty you think you are (you’re probably not), or something more meaningful like how communicative you are as a partner (again, probably not as much as you think), we all battle that familiar acridness of denial. Continue reading “The 4 Types of Denial Holding Us Back and How to Use Them to Reach the Truth”

Some Pre-Labor Day Weekend Self-Awareness

Let yourself be silently drawn by the strange pull of what you really love. It will not lead you astray.


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Monday Morning Meditation

Until you make the unconscious conscious, it will direct your life and you will call it fate.

Carl Jung

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